This article should help you if you’re being put into diapers as part of DD for the first time. It’s important to know that you can say no but this might have consequences for your relationship and it’s likely because of this, that you’ve agreed to at least try DD.

First, you need to realize that although DD is unconventional and not widely discussed, it is used by thousands of couples to improve their relationships. There is nothing wrong with wearing and using diapers, the sigma comes from society's push to quickly potty train children but adults wearing diapers is very common for bedwetting, incontinence, ABDL (people who enjoy it), for convenience, and as part of Diaper Discipline.

Most people put in diapers for DD grow to enjoy it and it will be much easier for you if you try to find the positives. Resisting, complaining, or getting angry will only result in punishments which will make DD a worse experience for you.

Over the next few weeks, you’ll get used to wearing diapers for extended periods and using them instead of a toilet. At first, this will feel strange as you’ll have a new bulk around your lower body and between your legs. This might lead you to walk a little funny (waddle) but you’ll quickly get used to it and soon be walking normally again.

You’ll be in a diaper at home and in public so it’s likely your biggest fear will be being discovered. Your partner will help ensure this doesn’t happen and you should take comfort in the fact that even a thick diaper is near impossible to spot under clothes, plain onesies hide the diaper from showing even if you bend down and people aren’t looking for adults in diapers. Extra precautions such as wearing no diapers or thin pull-ups will be used around friends and family to keep your DD private.

Remember you are required to use your diaper so you’ll need to get used to letting go while not on a toilet. This will be hard as your body has been trained to hold on but for your own benefit, you should try peeing more often. Holding and then losing control with a full bladder will be uncomfortable and risk your diaper leaking which will be way more embarrassing.

You’ll find wet diapers are warm, squishy, and swell in size. This actually (once you get over the unusual nature of it) can be an enjoyable feeling and one to get used to, as the majority of your time in diapers they will be some level of wet.

In your first few weeks try wetting your diaper in different positions to get more used to it; lying in bed on your back and front, sitting in a chair, standing still, squatting, crawling and walking. With practice, it will get much easier which will help your diapers be less distracting in daily life.

Most DD will include a full toilet ban so this means you’ll also be required to poo in your diaper. You may find this a disgusting concept at first but again it’s one you’ll get used to. Your partner will likely make adjustments to make this easier for you such as tablets that remove the smell of your BM’s and plastic pants which go over your diaper to provide extra leak and smell protection. If you try to avoid messing your diaper, the use of laxatives and suppositories will remove your control, so it will be easier on you if you make an effort to mess your diaper at least once daily.

Wearing and using diapers even 24/7 won’t cause you to lose bladder or bowel control, so there are no negative long-term effects of DD.

You’ll be wearing high-quality adult diapers which have a large capacity. This means you shouldn’t be worried about leaking all the time but does also mean a wet or even messy diaper will not be changed immediately. Get used to spending time in used diapers by trying to continue your life as normal. We normally suggest 3-4 diaper changes a day so expect one in the morning after you wake up / have a shower, one around lunchtime and another before bed. But this means wearing each diaper for 6-12 hours.

Depending on your DD you may be able to ask for changes but these won’t be granted unless your diaper warrants it. Some or all of your diapers will be changed by your partner which will be embarrassing at first but will turn into an intimate time in your daily relationship. Get used to rash prevention cream and baby powder being used and be thankful as this will protect you from uncomfortable rashes.

You may not believe it now but within a few weeks, you’ll be used to wearing, wetting, and messing your diapers. The initial embarrassment will have faded but the consistent reminder that you’re secured in a diaper will not. Your relationship will be growing stronger even if you don’t feel it yet but hopefully you will feel a more caring bond forming between you both.

Diaper Discipline is not a short-term punishment but instead a lifestyle change to improve your relationship. It’s likely that you’ll now be wearing and using diapers regularly for the rest of your relationship and life. The vast majority of couples using DD report it significantly improved their relationship in the long term. As such, try to make the most of it, embrace it even though it feels strange and be a good partner in the relationship. DD takes away your control over going to the toilet but it gives back in intimate experiences, creating a caring/loving bond and allowing you to safely enjoy childhood experiences again.