I’ve always had an interest in having a more dom or daddy role in a relationship after learning about it on reddit. It’s been more of a fantasy for me for many years but during my current relationship I noticed my girlfriend exhibited quite a lot of sub tendencies such as really enjoying being cared for, having her hand held and acting childish in some ways. 

As our relationship became more serious about 18 months in we got chatting about kinks and she opened up to being interested in smacking. I was completely fine with that and trying to reassure her said I actually had an interest in being more of a dom in the relationship at times and caring for her more intimately. This idea was new to her but she seemed somewhat excited by the idea.

Over the next few weeks we spent some time scrolling through reddit and tumblr checking out other couples who had a ddlg (Daddy Dom Little Girl) dynamic as we both found we were turned on by pictures and videos where she was being cared for wearing pull ups or being treated more like a baby with activities like colouring etc.

It was during this time that I discovered DD and got very excited about trying it on her but I wasn’t sure if she’d be keen or if maybe it was going to be too far. I ended up pitching it to her one night as an idea I had to incorporate DDLG into our lives and if she’d be interested in it being a bigger part of their time together. She was obviously nervous at first but she decided she would be up for trying something and seeing how it went. Going on to giving the more details that I wanted to make her wear diapers and treat her more as a baby some days did take a while to chat it over but she agreed in the end.

She agreed that it was important that I was in control so she couldn’t dictate the detail as that would somewhat diminish the ddlg nature but we did agree that it would only be 2 days a week initially at least.

Even though I was keener to go for a higher level of DD but as this would be new for us both and I wanted it to be a success I ended up starting with the following rules:

• She’d wear diapers every weekend from Friday night to Monday morning (slightly pushing the 2 day limit)
• When in diapers she had to use them for all peeing.
• She’d be dressed as a baby or toddler during the weekend. Wearing onesies and dresses I’d purchased for her
• She’s have to use a pacifier and all her weekend drinks would be out of a baby bottle
• I’d check and change all her diapers
  

The next weekend we put this into motion and I diapered her for the first time before bedtime. We were both really nervous and it was strange taping her into a pink diaper for the first time. A princess onesie followed which she thought was really cute.

We spent that evening cuddling, watching some tv shows and she feel asleep on me as I stroked her hair which I know she loves.

That morning was the first time she had to use her diaper and it took a long while of me reassuring her it was ok and her trying to let go. It turns out it’s quite hard to tell your body it’s ok to let go while in bed for someone very used to always using the toilet. She did eventually manage to let go and flooded her diaper but luckily it didn’t leak. I knew this was a key moment so told her how proud I was of her and that she was a good girl before leaving her in bed.

I came back with a bottle of milk which I think surprised her especially when I held it for her to drink. We spent the morning still in bed watching some tv giving her time to get used to her diaper but I was also loving every minute of it.

I changed her out of her diaper which was pretty wet at the back but the front was unused and we both had showers. After which I again changed her into another diaper and a onesie. That Saturday we spent at home and I made sure to be really attentive to her and telling her how good she was, etc.

She did a manage to wet her diaper a few times and I changed her again in the late afternoon and before bed. These were the first changes where I had to wipe her down which she blushed badly at but I could tell she was also turned on. Bedtime that night I also introduced a pacifier which she felt silly sucking on initially but within the hour she was sucking on it without even noticing.

Sunday was a repeat which us both getting much more used to the diapers. That night I asked how she was finding it obviously praying that it had been ok, luckily it turns out she’d loved it. She did day it was very embarrassing at first but she loved the feeling of being cared for.

We stopped on Monday and were both very excited for the next weekend. Over these next weekend it became even better, she was finding wetting easier and I had got used to regularly checking and changing her diapers which she loved. We even tried going out in public with her diaper hidden under a long dress. 

That was probably about 6 months ago now and during that time we did decide to step it up. Once every two weeks I make her have a baby day where she’s not allowed to use any adult words, has to crawl or be carried everywhere and I also feed her all her meals and drinks. These are really fun days but are a lot of work!

The other changes are I’m now putting her in diapers more often, we still do every weekend but now I also add a few days or nights in the week at random. 

Finally about 2 months ago I decided that as a baby she shouldn’t be allowed to use the toilet at all when in diapers. Hannah was dead against this at first but I said it was non-negotiable if she wanted to continue and she did agree. I loved the dom side of taking her potty privileges away from her and it actually wasn’t as hard we probably both expected. I did use a suppository on her the first weekend of this as I knew she’d try avoid it otherwise and that was very affective. It was probably only 20 minutes before she had a very full diaper. I made sure to give her a ton of positive reinforcement as she was really embarrassed. That diaper change was before a shower but I gave her pacifier and got her watching a show on the ipad while I changed her out of it. This was a good idea I stole from another couple as it allowed her to detach herself from the embarrassing process.

For me it was a bit disgusting as I’d never even changed a messy baby diaper but by using a load of adult sized wipes (so much better than baby wipes) I managed to clear her up enough so she could go for a shower. The smell wasn’t too bad but we have now started her on devrom which she starts taking and it’s game-changing making the smell almost disappear. She actually said she likes it even when not in diapers as it’s less embarrassing using the toilet when there is no fear of smells.

I’m now the biggest fan of DD and love babying my girlfriend. She also loves it, discovering a whole side of her she didn’t know. We’ve talked about it a bit and might even try going 24/7 soon. The main thing holding us back is the fear of others finding out and the cost but I’ve recently been promoted so it feels affordable now. We’ll see I guess but the prospect of making her a full time diaper wearer definitely excites me.

After writing this and sharing it with Hannah (she had agreed I could already) she decided to add some of her own thoughts.

‍Hannah’s side

James covered a lot of the embarrassing details already but I felt my side might be interesting for any other women who are maybe thinking about this.

DD is obviously very weird for people outside the community and initially as James mentioned I was pretty hesitant even though I was intrigued. I worried that liking or wanting this would make be weird or broken or something. I’d seen a few articles about similar things and people weren’t always kind but the more I thought about it the more I realised that there wasn’t anything wrong with it. It wasn’t hurting anyone or dangerous to either me or James so really it was just outdated attitudes just like we’ve seen with LGBTQ over the years.

When we decided to do DD I really wasn’t sure what it would be like or if I’d actually enjoy it. The first weekend was strange and trying to wet myself for the first time took ages as my brain just really couldn’t accept it. But by Monday morning I’d realised that I loved the feeling of being cared for and when I wasn’t in my own head thinking “this is strange” I actually felt super relaxed, safe and protected.

Wet diapers actually are also really enjoyable for the most part, I found them comfortable and the warmth sticks around which is great too. Being checked by James makes me blush but he’s so loving and it cute feeling like he’s looking after me.

As he mentioned we’ve experimented which how far to take the baby side of things. Bottles and pacifiers are really fun and easy to incorporate in our life so I find myself using those a lot. Being fed is playful but does make meals harder so we don’t do that as often. 

The baby days James talked about I find to be an amazing way to reset after a hard week, I don’t get to look at my phone, don’t have to make conversation and can really just relax an be cared for. I fill the time drawing or watching cartoons or reading, all while James is changing me as required, keeping me hydrated with bottles and feeding me at the table. For him it’s probably hard work but I really really appreciate it. As you can tell I have to act like a baby in speech, lack of toilet control and being fed but I can still do activities older children do as otherwise it would probably get a bit boring. 

The switch to using diapers for everything was tough and I was sure I’d hate it. The first time was very very strange and I don’t think I’ve ever been so red when he changed me but with the adjustments we’ve made, I’ve actually grown to enjoy it. The feeling that once he tapes me in a diaper I’m banned for using the toilet is exciting, helps me get into the baby girl mode and feels naughty every time I fill the diaper and wait for him to notice.

I’m now in diapers much more that I ever felt possible and can’t see wanting it to change anytime soon. Even wearing in public is second nature to me now and outside of enjoying it’s convenient never having to wait in the long lines for restrooms.

We’ve kept the whole DD thing very private but my best friend who I trust completely does now know. It’s been great being able to share it with someone and she actually now seems interested in it herself, trying on pull ups for the first time with her partner not that long ago. It would be dreamy if one day we were both in DD and could have playdates but we’ll see.

This turned out much longer than I thought so all I’ll finish with is if you want feel more cared for in your relationship and you’re both open minded DD is incredible. Hopefully one day it becomes more main stream because it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve made so much so that (as James said) we might make it a 24/7 thing.‍

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June 2022 Update from Hannah‍

It’s been just over 3 months since we wrote the above “review” of DD and wanted to give you all an update!

Just a few weeks after writing the review both our jobs became fully remote, which alongside James’s pay rise we could now afford to try 24/7 and work wasn’t going to be as much of a challenge as I was scared about wearing around my colleagues. So about a month ago we committed to trying out 24/7 DD and agreed that we’d give it 3 months as recommended to see how it went.

To prep we bought a ton of extra diapers, some more clothes and also setup a dedicated changing area in our spare bedroom. We did this using an Ikea day bed (https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/hemnes-daybed-frame-with-3-drawers-white-30349329/) with an adult changing mat on top and the draws filled with diapers and supplies. The beauty of this is by removing just the changing pad on top it takes only 10s to make it look like a normal bed if people are over. James also decided that to prevent me backing out to remove all my underwear and locked it in an old suitcase.

We’re now over halfway and I think we can safely say we’re not going to stop at the 3 month mark. For the last 7 weeks I haven’t once used the toilet and I’m now completely used to being in a full diaper at some point every day. James is changing probably half my diapers but it’s too much to get him doing it all but I still have to always ask for a change. This means sometimes having to stay in a messy diapers for a few hours if he’s on a long meeting which isn’t ideal but I’ve avoided any bad rashes so it’s ok overall.

To keep rashes at bay he does apply anti-rash cream after any messy diapers and always uses a lot of powder. I’m definitely not a baby 24/7 because I do have to work but almost all my drinks are now out of a bottle and although I have to be smart on top for work calls I’m often just in an onesie underneath or some Disney PJs to make checks and changes easier.

It’s not all be easy and in week 2 and 3 there were several times I wanted to back out particularly after my diaper had a leak while we were out but we managed to hide it fine. That scared me a bit but after we got home, I’d calmed down and James had let me have a shower before re-diapering me my initial reaction of wanted to stop faded away.

Overall I’m so happy and James is too, I feel less stressed than ever before and excited by years together as his diapered girl.

To top it all off my best friend has also really embraced DD and has convinced her partner to diaper her a few weekends a month. She even came around diapered the other weekend and we got to hang out together which was Awesome. I think James sharing his daddy side with her boyfriend was quite awkward but hopefully in time that will become more natural. Who knows maybe she’ll also be a 24/7 baby some day too. This experience has solidified to me that DD isn’t anything bad and if more people tried it the community would be massive.