It’s very likely that you or your partner will want to stop DD at points. This might be due to an unfortunate event which turns you off or they might become embarrassed by wearing diaper and or if they’re ABDL lose the interest temporarily.

It’s very important you guard against this as the desire to continue DD will come back stronger and key to its success is the forced nature, even at times when one or both of you aren’t keen. Once committed to DD you should see it as something that isn’t open for negotiation or change at short notice. It’s part of your weekly life through both the good times and bad.

As such it can be helpful to agree some rules about how changes to DD can be agreed. Two simple rules we recommend are that no changes are allowed within 24 hours of the partner in diapers having an orgasm as it’s common that following this, especially if they’re ABDL, feelings of shame can cloud their judgement. Secondly that any changes that will reduce the level of DD (i.e. less diapered time or allowing messing in a toilet) only take affect after 1 week allowing a cool off period where it’s likely you’ll change your mind.

You can also agree a minimum length you will try DD for after which it can be discussed and changes made. For partners on either side who are new to DD we recommend setting this at 3 months but the absolute minimum should be 1 month. If you want to be stricter set this as a yearly event where their DD strictness is reviewed.

A pre-agreed threat can be used to insure adherence, for example if your partner is ABDL could be that if they stop DD then they have to give up diapers for good. For partners without a desire for diapers the deterrent could be you telling one of their friends about them wearing diapers if they decide to stop. It’s critical that whatever the deterrent is, it’s agreed up front by both parties.