‍Me and Rory have been together for nearly 7 years and he came out to me about being ABDL about 1 year in. At first I obviously found it weird but overall was fine with it and got used to him occasionally wearing around me.

After a few years it became clear he wanted to wear more and I was worried he was becoming “addicted” to it or something bad. We did chat about it several times and I slowly came to realise the desire wasn’t growing but he was becoming more open with me. The fear of rejection was what had driven him to be scared to ever ask for more.

Although I don’t even now fully understand the appeal of wearing and using diapers and other abdl stuff, it was really important to him so I did some reading and joined a few forums to try speak to others in my position. Eventually I got to know one of the people behind this website and they shared a lot of what had and hadn’t worked for them and others.

The key thing I wasn’t really aware of was Rory’s potential desire to be forced to wear and use diapers. It was only after reading more about DD and being encouraged to probe did I subtly ask him one night if he ever wanted me to force him to wear one.

His excitement was very obvious but I didn’t push it that night at all as I wasn’t really sure what to make of it all and even if I wanted to encourage more diaper wearing in our life. It took another few months of learning and speaking to others to get my head straight on it all.

The main things that became clear after talking to lots of people were:

• this desire was unlikely to go away
• he was probably extremely conflicted about his interest in diapers (a key sign of this is being very on / off with it all)
• taking away the control over his diapers might make him very happy & fulfilled 
• people who had DD as part of their life seemed happy and in strong long term relationship 

We were about 4 years into our relationship when I decided to try out DD on Rory. We both had busy lives and I’m not a natural Mommy/Dom so I knew 24/7 wasn’t really going to work for us but I did want it to be a significant change for him.

One day I mentioned to him that I wanted to take control of his diaper wearing and when he had to wear and use them. We discussed it at a high level and he agreed he’d love it but we didn’t go into details.

About a week later on Friday before a holiday weekend I told him his DD was going to start now. I diapered him which was previously a rare treat for him and told him the rules I’d decided on which in summary were 3-4 days in diapers each week, no toilet access when wearing and he’d have to ask me before changing. I asked him if he agreed as once he decided there would be no turning back and his first 3 day period would be starting now.

He did and that began his DD. The first weekend went fairly smoothly, I changed several wet diapers and he messed himself for the first time. Messing was one of the rules I had hesitated on and it was hard to enforce as it was a turn off for me but now with experience I highly recommend you do keep it.

We even went out in public a few times but his diapers were very discreetly hidden. A few days of non-DD followed before the next weekend where again he was in diapers after work on Friday. On the Friday night, he came with the help of my vibrator and after as I was changing him into a dry diaper he said he was keen to stop DD for a few days. I wasn’t really sure so I agreed and we had a fairly normal weekend. However after a few days his desire for diapers had returned and he asked if we were ok to start DD again. It turns out this is very common and to save you a long store the cure ladies, is to strictly enforce DD even when they don’t want it, they will thank you later, trust me.

So from that point on Rory has spent at least 3 days (full 24 hour periods) in diapers. It’s now been several years and I’ve expanded DD over that time so he also wears most nights and the toilet is completely banned when he’s wearing. This means most weekends he’s not using a toilet even if we’re out of the house! I’ve also enjoyed babying him a bit and we have a large collection of onesies, rompers as well as adult pacifiers and bottles which I use occasionally.

Placing Rory into DD has been a great decision, he’s happier, less stressed and our relationship feels bulletproof. It’s very weird but keeping your boyfriend in Diapers is brilliant! You’ll get used to it more than you think, messy diapers aren’t that bad and don’t feel like you have to change every diaper, he has to do his fair share (I make him do 90% of messy ones).