My boyfriend George is ABDL and introduced me to DD about a year and half ago. This was all completely new to me and I definitely struggled to embrace it in the early months. He was wearing on and off during this time but I wasn’t that involved.

About 6 months ago I noticed he was getting more and more stressed with a combination of a high pressure work life where he was missing his targets and a family health issue in the background. He also let on that he was struggling with his DD desires and my lack of involvement.

I’d read this website a few times and remembered an article on Stress Relief so decided to check it out to see if there was anything I could do to help. I also managed to exchange some messages with a couple on Twitter who’d used DD for stress before who were very kind in sharing their story.

With his stress level only seeming to get worse I decided it was worth a shot and used the guide + their advice to implement DD.

I can only speak from my experience but the way I approached this was as follows and the results have been incredible.

First I knew he struggled with the binge / purge cycle of losing interest before it returned in anger, and that was contributing to his stress so I decided to completely take away the start stop nature by forcing him to wear 24/7.

As recommended, I approached him on a Saturday morning when he had already been wearing and told him how worried I was by his stress and that I wanted to help by using DD. I could tell this excited him and he did open up that he was struggling but wasn’t sure if DD would help. Again as recommended, I was pretty forceful in saying that I had decided this was best and he’d be following some new rules. I can’t remember the exact conversation but he did agree that we could try it for a few weeks and that he’d follow whatever rules I set.

I’d already written down my plan and read this to him:

• He’d be in diapers 24/7 from now on
• I would lock away his underpants to prevent him being tempted to fall back into wearing them
• When he was with friends he would wear pull-ups or a very thin diaper to prevent anyone else finding out
• The toilet would be fully out of bounds with it only allowed to be used if out with friends and his pull up was near leaking (This was a big step as although I knew he’d tried messing a few times he wasn’t really used to it and neither was I)
• He’d be started on daily vitamins & fiber sachets to keep him healthy, and Devrom tablets to reduce the smell of his bm’s
• I’d be checking and changing his diaper as much as possible when at home but messy changes he’d be taking care of for the foreseeable
• We’d try it for 3 weeks and see how it went
  

He didn’t massively argue apart from pushing for being allowed underwear with friends and not having to mess but I held firm on both points.

This was all in the morning, so I started his 24/7 wearing by diapering him after his morning shower and I could tell he was lost in thought all morning.

Saturday went smoothly and I made a big effort to check and change him lovingly to make the experience positive. He didn’t mess until Sunday morning and I had to hold firm as he near begged to be able to use the toilet but I didn’t relent. I had started him on Devrom on Saturday and even though it wasn’t working fully yet the smell wasn’t as bad as I expected but I still let him change and shower almost immediately afterward.

And so it began, the first week was hard work getting into the rhythm of things and I had to lay down the law several times to keep him diapered and using them fully. Once we were a few days in the tablets & increased fiber had removed almost all the smell which made things easier. We got through it and by the second week I was starting to notice positive changes. He seems less on edge and even when things didn’t go to plan at work, he seemed calmer, more focused and more attentive to me.

By week 3, I was confident the 24/7 DD was having a very positive impact. The diaper checks and changes had become intimate times where we could chat during the day, he said he felt more on top of things at work and he seemed noticeably happier.

As agreed at the 3-week mark we discussed if we felt it had been positive. I was 100% sold and George also admitted he felt less stressed and happier even though he didn’t always love having to wear diapers. He was pushing for some changes to reduce away from 24/7 and the no toilet rule but I felt that was key to its success, so in the end, he did agree to continue as is.

We’re now 9 weeks in and I’ve kept him 24/7 for this entire time and our lives have improved immeasurably. I think in the future I’ll be able to drop it down to a few days a week but for now, I don’t want to break what’s working so well.

In this time I’ve introduced a few other changes which I now recommend:

• I use a baby bottle at bedtime for his nighttime drink
• I bought an adult pacifier and make him use it both at bedtime and at any point he gets stressed in the day
• I use a ton of positive encouragement about him being good when he uses his diapers
  

He wasn’t ever massively into the baby side but I found the above items really work in relaxing him and the positive encouragement seems to have helped his self-esteem when it comes to liking diapers.

During this time we also went for a vacation to Europe for 10 days and I maintained his 24/7 DD. It required a tiny amount of extra planning in that we took an extra suitcase with his supplies but it was really enjoyable. We found changing in public to be hard in a city you don’t know so I used his thicker diapers for days away from our hotel. We purchased a size larger shorts for the trip which hid his diapers well. Another top tip is to buy liquid anti-chafing cream, it prevented any rash issues even on the days we spent exploring cities.

I’m still not a natural “mommy” DD figure but I’m enjoying my role more than ever and the extra work has been worth it for his mental health and our relationship. The main piece of advice I received and pass on now is to commit fully! Allowing gaps in wearing or toilet usage can quickly lead to the whole thing breaking down so you have to be ironclad in enforcing those elements even at the times you or he would rather he wasn't wearing.

Thanks to the DD Guide admin who encouraged me to share our story and I hope you’ve found it useful. I'm always happy to chat with other partners who are at the beginning of all of this and want advice or are struggling: newjerseryellie@proton.me

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Useful next reads:

• DD for Stress Relief
• Benefits of making your Partner wear 24/7