One of the biggest reported benefits of DD for the partner being put in diapers is stress and anxiety relief.

If you’re worried about your partner’s stress level or they suffer anxiety attacks the usage of diapers and other age play activities can provide relief from this daily stress and allow them to reset.

This is most effective if they’re already ABDL but if not, over time the stress relieving aspect will become more apparent even in partners forced into DD.

The power of stress relief comes through a few different elements:

1. Diapers act as a security blanket for the wearer, protecting them against the outside world.
2. They can give up an adult responsibility in the form of toilet training
3. They will feel cared for and protected by you
4. Being treated as a younger age allows them to leave adult responsibilities and worries behind

If you’re using DD for stress relief there are three approaches we recommend you take:

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Usage of baby elements before bed

Sleep is one of the areas most affected by stress so you can tackle this by helping them detach from adult responsibilities at bedtime. 

Diaper them if they’re not already wearing and then get them into a calm state by feeding them a bottle of milk, water or fruit juice. It’s worth buying an adult-sized ABDL bottle for this which are widely available. You can hold the bottle for them or they can hold it and you can stroke their hair etc to calm them further. 

Follow this with the use of an adult-sized pacifier which is comfortable for adult mouths and are used widely outside of ABDL / DD to reduce stress.

With your partner now in a calmed state, you can still engage in somewhat adult activities such as watching TV in bed but we’d still recommend repeating the bottle feeding just before you go to sleep. 

Simplified, once in bed, your partner should either have a bottle or pacifier in their mouth at all times. Try to avoid stress-inducing conversations at this time.

By the morning the bottles should have ensured your partner is wet and use this as a time for positive reinforcement by telling them they’re a good baby, etc. Their pacifier should also be re-inserted if it fell out in the night.

Finish the process by changing them out of their diaper. If they’re a morning shower person, still make the effort to remove their diaper and give them a quick wipe before they head off.

This can be carried out every or every other night to suit your relationship and their stress level. You should start seeing positive results almost immediately and they’ll likely benefit from much higher quality sleep.

Forced DD

Putting your partner in a regular pattern of DD is a highly effective way to reduce stress in the long term. 

If they’re ABDL there is a risk that their interest in DD might be contributing to stress caused by worries of acceptance. You can counter this by making an effort to accept them, get involved and make DD a regular, consistent part of their life. 

The most effective approach is to enforce 24/7 DD and remove all their toilet privileges except for work/family/friends for a period of time. We recommend at least 1 month to see how it goes and continue if it’s having positive results. This is preferable as it provides a constant non-negotiable change in their life. 

Positive reinforcement through this time and getting involved as much as possible in checking and changing their diaper will yield the best outcomes. If you find yourself worrying about their stress level every day, then 24/7 DD should be your go-to strategy.

If 24/7 doesn’t feel possible or their stress level isn’t too high, you can turn to regular DD of a few days a week instead. Because diapers will be now on/off, positive encouragement and involvement are more important. 

Read a girlfriend's personal experience of using DD on her boyfriend for stress relief.

Baby Days

Another strategy that is a brilliant way to reset your partner’s mental state after a hard or stressful week is a baby day. 

The feedback we get on baby days for a partner's stress level and mental health is incredible so we urge you to try it a few times. It will be a lot of work for you but doing it a few times a month alongside DD can be life-changing for your partner.

Learn more about what a baby day involves here and James & Hanna’s DD journey also covers how beneficial they found them to be.

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