We earlier covered why messing diapers is so important in DD but what if you want to force things along? Unlike wetting it’s possible to get your baby to have the feeling of a helpless lack of control with the use of laxatives, enemas, and suppositories.
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The first step for a partner who will be regularly using diapers for messing is to start a regime of fiber supplements. These are good for their bowel health, prevent constipation, can be safely taken long term, increase the size and urgency of their bm's and result in better poo consistency (something you’ll appreciate if changing them).
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However to truly for them to mess themselves you’ll want to turn to either oral or suppository laxatives. Unlike fiber supplements, these are not safe to use every day and we recommend using twice a week at the maximum.

Oral laxatives like Ducolax Tablets work in 6-12 hours, if given before bed it will result in them walking up in the morning with an urgent need that they won't be able to fight for long. Drinking a large glass of pure prune juice is a natural option and will work even quicker, generally in 3-4 hours. Both of the above clear their whole lower bowel so expect a large mess that is watery by the end.

Suppositories or fleet enemas (small disposable enemas) work much faster in 10 - 30 minutes and result in a rapid loss of control but produce more solid BMs. To apply ask your partner to kneel with their face on the floor before pulling down the back of their diaper and inserting the suppository with a lubricated finger as far as possible into their bum. Pull the diaper back up, add plastic pants and dress them as you see fit.

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